Each one of us in this world is looking for love. We begin our journey being smothered in our mother's arms, gradually transitioning to finding love in the belongingness we share among our friends and eventually leading us to find the one we want to spend our lives with. This journey of finding love is universal yet very unique and personal at the very same time. For those belonging to the LGBTQ community, it comes with its own set of challenges and triumphs.
Finding love for each one of us is important yet being true to who we are has to go hand in hand. Having said that, celebrating one’s identity is crucial in setting the foundation of self-acceptance and confidence. This means to essentially find comfort in who we are, setting your own values before entering the dating scene. When you celebrate your identity you are true to yourself and this helps foster much deeper and meaningful relationships. This ensures their love for you is real and not just based on an idea that is set by societal norms. This empowerment helps you build resilience and gives you strength to deal with any challenges that come along. It also gives you the strength to deal with rejections. So, by proudly accepting your identity, you pave the way for much healthier and happier relationships.
This blog aims to provide practical LGBTQ dating tips while encouraging you to be your authentic self.
1. Embracing Your Authentic Self
The cornerstone of any healthy relationship is self-acceptance and self-love. By accepting and embracing who you are, you lay the bricks of confidence and security, which reflects in the way you walk, talk and express yourself. Acknowledging and embracing your identity and taking pride in your unique qualities and experience reinforces your self-worth, which helps you step into healthier relationships.
2. Know What You Want
This means being able to establish your wants and needs in a relationship, define the values on which the relationship will be based, have a clear idea about what you are looking for in your partner, and set your boundaries, which will ensure mutual respect and understanding in the relationship.
3.Find Your Community
Join groups that are exclusive to the community. As a collective, when you work towards a cause, the probability to find like-minded people rises. This can help establish relationships that are based on values. It also opens a window to form bonds and relationships organically, as you may find individuals who align with your ideologies and accept you for who you are. Giving you a chance to find the one.
You can join the group ‘Empowering LGBTQ’ on Solh Wellness and share your experiences and maybe even find the one.
4.Dating Platform
The world as we know has gone digital, and so have our connections. The world of Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat has made the world very small and given us ideas on how we can probably find people over the internet. This has given birth to the concept of online dating. LGBTQ romantic compatibility can be hence found on sites like Grindr, OkCupid, Tinder, Bumble, and many such sites. This helps you to find people who are ready to date and looking for the same things as you do. A general problem of guessing if someone you like belongs to the community or if they really want a relationship is out the window.
5.Communication
Be honest and have open communications from the beginning as it helps to establish trust. Any relationship that is based on trust goes a better and longer way. Truthful relationships bring a sense of calm and peace not only to you but also to your partner increasing the probability of having a loving long-term relationship.
6.Handling Rejection
On the journey of finding love, a tough pill you might have is the pill of rejection. It can be difficult to accept rejection and stay positive. Take this opportunity to rebuild yourself and self-reflect. Take some time for yourself and seek support if needed.
Alexia Bray grew up among many others who had seen LGBTQ community negatively depicted and characterized. This restricts the future to a place where love and acceptance are impossible because these negative images and harmful prejudices have taken hold of the collective mindset. But examples of tales like “The 100’s deep relationship between Clarke and Lexa'' or “The Last of Us’ sensitive love story between Bill and Frank”. These were not just LGBTQ-themed narratives; they were about loving people, finding solace in hardship. To Bray, these positive images were transformative moments that illuminated her life. They confirmed: "Yes, this is real, and it can be beautiful." Consequently, she believes strongly that diverse LGBTQ representation in the media should be open, honest. Because it is not only about entertainment; it’s about creating an environment where every person can see their own happily ever after being reflected back at them. This is why Bray strongly thinks that diverse and honest representations of the LGBQT+ community in media are important. She doesn’t just believe it’s fun but also helps promote acceptance and understanding, creating a world where everyone can find happiness as well.
By following these suggestions, LGBTQ individuals can confidently approach dating while embracing their identity and pursuing meaningful relationships. Learn how to take care of yourself by having conversations from a place of honesty regarding your needs as well as your partner’s conditions. Create limits that satisfy you both. Enjoy the journey of love and cherish its indelible moments. Everyone should have the chance to experience the richness of love. Happy Dating!
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